Confidence is believing in yourself, feeling comfortable in your true-self, knowing you have worth. If you are confident, people believe you, confidence is attractive, brings success, helps to connect well with others and you generally feel happier. Here are given few tips to live a confident life.
One of the most important ways is to become more accepting of ourselves. Look at your strengths and achievements and put a plan in place to address your weaknesses. We need to practice self-acceptance, feeling alright about ourselves and others regardless of the existing conditions. In this way, we may sometimes think it to be reasonable to be critical of our behavior and try to change it but without being critical of ourselves. This attitude helps in maintaining a healthy level of self-confidence.
Focus on your Achievements
If you take out time to think you will realize that you have achieved a lot in life. It does not matter what these achievements are, what really matters is that they are really important for you. Think about these achievements and see what they are meant for you. Prepare a list and to it add all the things that you are proud of. The fact that you are focusing on positives will also help you to increase your level of self-confidence.
Making Personal Changes
If as a result of monitoring your self-esteem and confidence, you decide that you want to change, it is best to identify some specific goals. What is the thing that you can change which will make you feel better about yourself. There are two kinds of changes that you may wish for. The first is the changes in your life and how you live it. Ask yourself questions such as are you happy in your job? Is there something else that you’ll do? What about your relationships or social life?
Having done all this, it is necessary to make sure that they are manageable and break down into smaller steps. For example, in order to be able to speak up in seminars, it may be easier to begin by expressing opinions more often with friends. Becoming comfortable with this can make the next step, that is contributing in a seminar, much easier.
Seeking Positive Experience and People
We can give ourselves positive experiences as a way of increasing our self-confidence. Also, spending time with people who like us for what we are is helpful. Surround yourself with positive influences and avoid those who are constantly negative. Being around critical people can have a detrimental effect on how we feel about ourselves and our self-confidence.
Rewards and Support
Give yourself rewards as you practice building your self-esteem. It does not really matter what the reward is as long as it is something that you really value.
Thus, on a concluding note, it is rightly said, self-confidence is just a small term for a lot of things. Emotional constraint, empathy, resilience all go into creating the personality that exudes self-confidence. A self-confident person would know how to say things that are honest with hurting the sentiments of others. A self-confident person would know how to say things that are honest without hurting the sentiments of others. A self-confident person also knows how to be heard with complete dignity, when there is a difference of opinion. What all this really takes is practice, but the most important thing is your own belief that you can do better.
Also published on Medium.